Between a Parenting Rock and a Hard Place
Biological parents in stepfamilies walk a delicate line as they back up the stepparent, and at times, speak up for their kids. How do they do that? Don't step into the middle of every conflict. They need to figure this out on their own. But when you do have something to say to your spouse, start with this, Because I support you, I want to share my thoughts about what is happening. Moving toward your spouse is the first step toward helping your spouse and children move toward each other.
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Biological parents in stepfamilies walk a delicate line as they back up the stepparent, and at times, speak up for their kids. How do they do that? Don't step into the middle of every conflict. They need to figure this out on their own. But when you do have something to say to your spouse, start with this, Because I support you, I want to share my thoughts about what is happening. Moving toward your spouse is the first step toward helping your spouse and children move toward each other.
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Parents need to be on the same side, right? Well, what if you can’t?
Ron: Parents need to be on the same side, right? Well, what if you can’t?
Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.
Ron: Biological parents in stepfamilies have a delicate tight-wire to walk: they need to back up the stepparent, but at times, speak up for their kids. So, how do they do that? Well, first of all, don’t step into the middle of every little conflict. Don’t play therapist every time they get sideways with each other. They need to figure this out on their own.
But when you do have something to say to your spouse, start with this, “Because I support you, I want to share my thoughts about what is happening with the kids.” Make clear your intent to support them and then share your perspective. Moving toward your spouse is the first step toward helping your spouse and children move toward each other. For FamilyLife Blended, I’m Ron Deal.
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