Stepparenting: It’s Not Personal
A young woman whose mom had remarried told me, “I really love my stepdad now but early on I was completely against him. Please understand it wasn’t him but rather the idea of him I had to get used to.†When the ingredients of a blended family are thrown together the adults need to remember that what feels like resistance or rejection of the stepparent is sometimes just adjustment to more change. It’s not always personal. So be longsuffering and have lots of grace for one another.
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A young woman whose mom had remarried told me, “I really love my stepdad now but early on I was completely against him. Please understand it wasn’t him but rather the idea of him I had to get used to.†When the ingredients of a blended family are thrown together the adults need to remember that what feels like resistance or rejection of the stepparent is sometimes just adjustment to more change. It’s not always personal. So be longsuffering and have lots of grace for one another.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and ...more
We all know that divorce is hard on kids, right? But did you know that adjusting to a parent’s remarriage is even harder.
Ron: We all know that divorce is hard on kids, right? But did you know that adjusting to a parent’s remarriage is even harder.
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Ron: I was talking one time with a young woman. She was approaching thirty and her mom had been remarried for just a couple of years. She said, “I really love my stepdad at this point but early on I was completely against him.” “But please understand,” she said, “it wasn’t him I was against. It was the idea of him I had to get used to.”
When the ingredients of a blended family are thrown together, the adults need to remember that what feels like resistance or rejection of the stepparent is really sometimes just adjustment. It’s not always personal. They are just adjusting to more change. So be longsuffering and have lots of grace for one another. For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.
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