Parenting: Parent Projections
Sometimes you come home from work frustrated and you kick the dog. Other times, we project our feelings onto other relationships. Say a husband feels disrespected by his wife but avoids verbalizing his need but when she speaks to the kids in the same way he rescues them. He assumes they feel the same disrespect he does. The point is, he's fighting their battle because it's really his own. You can't improve your relationship that way. Speak directly to your need, don't be a projector.
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Sometimes you come home from work frustrated and you kick the dog. Other times, we project our feelings onto other relationships. Say a husband feels disrespected by his wife but avoids verbalizing his need but when she speaks to the kids in the same way he rescues them. He assumes they feel the same disrespect he does. The point is, he's fighting their battle because it's really his own. You can't improve your relationship that way. Speak directly to your need, don't be a projector.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and ...more
Movie theatres project an image on to a screen. Sometimes people project frustrations.
Ron: Movie theatres project an image on to a screen. Sometimes people project frustrations.
Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.
Ron: Yeah, I think we all get that. Sometimes you come home from work frustrated and you kick the dog. Other times, we project our feelings onto other relationships. Say a husband feels disrespected by his wife but avoids speaking up for his need but when she speaks to the children in the same way he comes to their rescue. He assumes they feel the same disrespect he does which may or may not be the case.
The point is, he’s fighting their battle because it’s really his own. But you can’t improve your relationship that way. Speak directly to your need, don’t be a projector. For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.
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