Lying and Living in Fear
Imagine his surprise. He thought he was her fifth husband, but two years into their marriage, he found out he was her ninth. She lied because she was afraid he wouldn't marry her if he knew. The issue is trustworthiness. Lying about your past creates an artificial foundation for your relationship that will feel fragile, not stable. Being honest may cost you something. Sometimes it's difficult but better in the long-run to have a relationship built on truth than on quick sand. What good is that?
Show Notes
About the Guest
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Imagine his surprise. He thought he was her fifth husband, but two years into their marriage, he found out he was her ninth. She lied because she was afraid he wouldn't marry her if he knew. The issue is trustworthiness. Lying about your past creates an artificial foundation for your relationship that will feel fragile, not stable. Being honest may cost you something. Sometimes it's difficult but better in the long-run to have a relationship built on truth than on quick sand. What good is that?
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and ...more
Lying and hiding the truth just means you have to live in fear.
Ron: Lying and hiding the truth just means you have to live in fear.
Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.
Ron: Imagine his surprise. He thought he was her fifth husband, but two years into their marriage, he found out he was her ninth. She lied because she was afraid that he wouldn’t marry her if he knew. The issue here is trustworthiness.
Lying about your past just creates an artificial foundation for your relationship that will feel fragile, not stable. Well into your marriage you’re probably going to be anxious; fearful that if they ever find out the truth you’re sunk. Hey, being honest may cost you something. Sometimes it’s difficult but better in the long-run to have a relationship built on truth than on quicksand. What good is that? For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.
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