Shaunti Feldhahn

Shaunti received her graduate degree from Harvard University and was an analyst on Wall Street before unexpectedly becoming a social researcher, best-selling author and popular speaker. Today, she applies her analytical skills to investigating eye-opening, life-changing truths about relationships, both at home and in the workplace. Her groundbreaking research-based books, such as For Women Only, have sold more than 3 million copies in 25 languages and are widely read in homes, counseling centers and corporations worldwide.

In 2020, Shaunti, together with her husband Jeff Feldhahn, released Thriving in Love & Money. Little did they know just how timely this book would be as the world suddenly changed and couples needed to be able to talk about money more than ever. While most money books deal with surface issues of budgeting and debt, many couples struggle to even talk about money and it creates tension and a barrier to true oneness in their relationship. This is the money book that’s not about the money. It uncovers the issues that cause money conflicts and provide couples with truths that are relationship game-changers. Because you need a better relationship, not just a better budget. Find out more at thriveinloveandmoney.com.

Her book, The Kindness Challenge, continues to catalyze a much-needed movement of kindness across the country and beyond. Dozens of prominent organizations and leaders are coming together to do The 30-Day Kindness Challenge, and encourage their followers to do the same.

Shaunti’s findings are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show and Focus on the Family, The New York Times and Cosmo. She (often with her husband, Jeff) speak at both live and on-line events in the U.S. and around the world. Shaunti and her husband Jeff live in Atlanta with their daughter and son, and two cats who think they are dogs.

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Could your sex life be missing the point? Dr. Michael Sytsma talks about why we have sex…and the key to wow-level sex that changes everything. View Show Notes →
Has your married sex coasted into the blahs? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma's got solutions to keep you both captivated in the bedroom. View Show Notes →
Sex can be painful in so many ways -- but it doesn't have to mean doom. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers way to transform hurt to eventual healing. View Show Notes →
Initiating or declining sex: It's tricky. Are your signals clear to your spouse? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you with ";not tonight" and "yes, please." View Show Notes →
Wondering how to keep your married sex life sizzling -- or just move around conflict or hurt? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you troubleshoot. View Show Notes →
Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire. View Show Notes →
Does one of you want more sex than the other? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas and insight to work through differences in sexual desire. View Show Notes →
Feeling undesired, unattractive? On FamilyLife Today, Dave and Ann Wilson host researcher Shaunti Feldhahn & sex therapist Michael Systma, who get real about differences in sexual desire and how to deal. View Show Notes →
When it comes to sex, what’s normal? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn discuss research about drive, initiative, and other questions. View Show Notes →
Wha is normal in bed? Researcher Shaunti Feldhahn and sex therapist Dr. Michael Systma offer tips for better, fulfilling, and connected married sex. View Show Notes →
Hanna Seymour and Jaqueline Anderson Meza tell their stories of courtship and dating their husbands. Deepak Reju has some advice for singles who are lonely and dateless on a Friday night. Shaunti Feldhahn gives her perspective on the singles' landscape based on her research. View Show Notes →
What does it take to be happily married? Researcher Shaunti Feldhahn shares encouraging data about what makes the best marriages thrive. View Show Notes →
Blended and Blessed is a one-of-a-kind event for stepfamily couples with valuable teaching by respected experts. Get a glimpse of the upcoming event as you hear fun and informative interviews from previous speakers including Ron Deal and Shaunti Feldhahn. View Show Notes →
Do you and your spouse fight about money? How do you stack up to other couples in this area? Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn share discoveries from their research and reveal the gender trends behind it all. View Show Notes →
Jeff Feldhahn is frugal with money, but his wife Shaunti has no problem spending freely. Dave and Ann Wilson share this same dynamic. Listen as these couples unpack both sides of this equation with real-life marriage examples. View Show Notes →
Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn talk about why couples so often fight about money in marriage. The Feldhahns shed light on this and explain why just having conversations about money is the most stressful part. View Show Notes →
Gathered from FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It cruise, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn and Brian Goins answer a variety of questions from husbands--like, "Why does she ask for my opinion, then do her own thing?" "Why does she pick on my tone of voice?" "Why doesn't she say what she means?" View Show Notes →
Trying to figure out why your wife expects you to know what she's thinking? Brian, Shaunti, and guest Jim Mitchell explore how to uncover what's whirring beneath the surface in a way that makes your wife feel known--and significantly improve your relationship. View Show Notes →
Ever wonder if you're any good as a husband? Does conflict with your wife leave you feeling outwitted or inferior? Listen to Brian, Jen, and Shaunti dive into the validating differences between men and women. View Show Notes →
If you don't know how to handle your wife's tears, you're in good company. You're not the only husband who's paralyzed by his wife's emotions. But what if you saw them as a way to understand her better? Listen to the insights Brian, Jen, and Shaunti offer! View Show Notes →